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Gold digging doesn't pay off

By Amy Chan

Gold digging doesn't pay off. Unless you're Kanye West — seen here in 2006 with his three Grammy Awards, including one for Best Rap Solo Performance for 'Gold Digger'. (REUTERS)

Gold digging doesn't pay off. Unless you're Kanye West — seen here in 2006 with his three Grammy Awards, including one for Best Rap Solo Performance for 'Gold Digger'. (REUTERS)

I’ve heard people joke about Vancouver as having a significant amount of gold diggers. For those of you who are not familiar with the term, the Urban Dictionary defines a gold digger as: “Any woman whose primary interest in a relationship is material benefits. A woman who cares more about a man's bank account than she does about the man.”

Outrageous as it sounds, gold diggers are indeed quite prevalent in our city. The question is, in this day and age where there are an abundance of opportunities for women in the workforce and a variety of rewarding careers paths to choose from, why would any woman fake feelings for a man in exchange for a lifestyle?

Perhaps it’s the warped messages of fairytales that cause females to search for a wealthy prince to sweep them off their feet. Or maybe it’s the longing of a life filled with bubbles, brunches and Balenciaga bags. Another contributing factor to the desire and glamourization of gold digging could be the fact that we are bombarded by “reality” TV shows, such as The Real Housewives of Vancouver and Keeping up with the Kardashians, that set unrealistic standards of materialism and unobtainable luxury for the average person.

The media doesn’t exactly do a good job of depicting the not-so-happy-ever-after ending of gold digging, as sleeping with a rich guy doesn’t get you his money. You may get to borrow his car, eat fancy dinners and get some lavish gifts, but sooner or later, he gets bored of you, he cheats on you, he upgrades, or, for whatever reason, you break up. And then, you’re back to square one. That is, square one plus some pretty bad feelings after being discarded and objectified, which usually aren’t the most nurturing for the self-esteem or soul.

The value exchange is not in favour for the woman. The transaction usually goes like this: a rich man (often older) gives his value (money) in exchange for a beautiful, sexy woman (usually younger). While the man continues to increase his value of money through time, the woman’s “assets” — based purely on physical factors and society’s definition of beauty, will start to depreciate through time.

I heard a quote once that went something like this: ‘Ladies, marrying a rich guy is not a financial plan.’ In other words, make your own money — because you can and it’s a lot more rewarding earning your own trips and lifestyle.

Stop being impressed by rich dudes who don’t really care about you and desire only your looks and how you look on his arm. I’m not saying to not fall in love with a nice, wealthy man, I’m saying don’t sleep with him solely because of his cash flow. The price you end up paying is just not worth it.

 

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