DATING AND RELATING
Show appreciation — and not just on holidays
Morgan Tincher and his wife Kim with their eight-month-old twin daughters. (PHOTO SUBMITTED)
What do happy couples know? It seems a lot, as we ask local people to share their wisdom and lessons learned on life, love and secrets to a healthy relationship.
Name: Morgan Tincher
Relationship status: Married to Kim, with eight-month-old twin daughters
What is love to you?
Love is intrinsic. It’s a feeling that overcomes you. While love is the fundamental building block of a relationship, it doesn’t manage it all. For Kim and me, we’ve encountered challenging situations where we don’t see eye to eye. But regardless of the disagreement or heated moment, I can always say that I love her.
You two dated for six-and-a-half years before proposing, what made you decide to pop the question?
Life comes at you and the six years just flew by. I wasn’t in a hurry. I am someone that defies convention a lot in my life. Marriage in the traditional sense was not a priority. My relationship with Kim and being fully present was. When we purchased our first place together, and got a dog, it was then that marriage seemed like a natural step.
When did you know?
Right when I met her, I knew I wanted to get to know her more. As we started to date, I could imagine ultimately spending the rest of my life with her. She was only 22 when I met her and it’s been such a cool journey watching Kim become a woman. I couldn’t predict with precision how she would blossom, but I had a sense of who she was and where she was going ... even when she couldn’t see it. I feel privileged that I have been a part of her growth as both an enthusiastic fan on the sidelines and a teammate.
Who is the alpha between you two?
I’ll say I’m the alpha, while there are many instances where she exerts the alpha position and I take a back seat.
Who pursued whom?
I definitely pursued her. She was a tough one, but I was fortunate in finding the right words and actions that ultimately wooed her.
What do you love about her the most?
While a thousand things come to mind, I love her authenticity.
How do you keep the passion alive?
We do special things for each other — not only on holidays and birthdays. I leave little notes, surprise her, get her flowers just because, and sometimes I’ll just go in for a spontaneous make-out session. All these little things make a difference. Oh, and massages are a big one. I should be doing those more often. Wink, wink.
What is something you will tell your daughters when they grow up?
Never compromise your values, believe in yourself and if someone doesn’t match with that, then move on. Particularly when I was younger, I noticed some girls sexually objectifying themselves for male approval and I always struggled with that.