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Be yourself, not an online illusion 0

AMY CHAN, amyfabulous.com

In a Facebook world, where we see a constant stream of our "friends" lives - from their latest vacations, party pics to ultrasounds - we see the image that people carefully craft. Because it's online, the ability to pick and choose this image is easy.

Every status update, photo, boast and tweet - is chosen to present to the world the type of person we want everyone to think we are. There is nothing wrong with this. However, it's common for people to pose to be something that they really aren't. This breeds inauthenticity, both within yourself and amongst others. Perhaps social media is to blame for the lack of authenticity that is running rampant online. Regardless, I want to call it out.

To the people busy posing out there, here's my note to you: Please, be you. Nobody who really matters cares about the image of the perfect, rich, party-popular, celebrity-acquainted person you are trying to craft. People who matter - they care about your kindness, your compassion, your love, your attitude and your values.

Fancy "things" do not add to you as a person. They are fine to enjoy, but just know that they don't make you any better, more loveable, and definitely not any cooler. Are there people who gravitate to that stuff? Of course, but is that the audience and company you really care to keep? I'll repeat a quote my sister once told me, "Only impressionable people are impressed."

I have a lot of respect for people who have the courage to be raw, authentic, honest and . imperfect. As human beings we naturally come with vulnerability, flaws, fears and complex emotions. That is what makes us beautiful.

That is what enables us to connect and bond. When we try to mask our basic humanness and cover it up with superficial visages, we lie. We put forth a self that we think everyone wants us to be, when really people just want you to be at ease with who you already are. Can we all stop posing now so we can really connect?

In the words of the famous doctor himself . "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss

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