Dear Jon and Kate:
I am very sorry to hear of your recent separation, but not surprised.
I am, however, flabbergasted as to the reason why your reality TV show will continue.
As far as I can see, Jon and Kate Plus 8 was the cause of much strife in your marriage.
While you both say that everything you do is "for the kids," your suggestion on last night's show that you will emerge "stronger, better and wiser" just rings false.
You have made the nest egg, and secured their futures. Now, for the sake of your family, I believe there needs to be an end alright - and end to the show.
If the two of you are going to save your family, you need to do it together.
You have both made foolish mistakes, but I don't think it is worth throwing away 10 years and eight little lives.
Jon, you need to take back the pants and stand up to your wife.
You admit you aren't a good communicator. Realizing it is the first step. Instead of mumbling, then blowing up when you have had enough, learn how to communicate effectively.
Be there to give Kate help when she needs it instead of skulking on the sidelines.
If you are not happy at home because Kate is travelling and promoting the books, say something.
My impression is that you feel emasculated of late due to the Mr. Mom role, but sulking won't change anything so use your words.
Stop running around with the little chickies too, none of them will want to help you raise the children, trust me.
Kate, toss over the reins and stop your overbearing, controlling ways.
It is costing you your marriage.
Your nagging and worry-wart attitude over every little issue is enough to drive a saint to swear.
I understand you need to be organized in order to keep things running efficiently, and I applaud you for being able to do it.
Where is the need though, to berate, yell at and hit your husband?
What kind of message are you sending your children about how to treat the ones you love?
I realize you were both very young when you married, and the added stress of multiples may have been too much for you, but here's the deal: If you are to have any chance at saving this marriage, and offering your "multiple blessings" the real life they deserve, stop doing the show and start doing your life.
No more jet setting, tummy tucks, sports cars, hair implants and motorbikes.
Start with just being Mommy and Daddy again. Get some good marriage and family counselling, and start over from scratch. Your kids deserve it, and you owe it to them to give it your best shot.
If you have questions for Robin, e-mail advice@canoe.ca
