But will she wear it? Buying clothes for mom
When buying clothes for mom, consider her style, not yours. (Shutterstock)
Sunday is Mother’s Day and for some it is a huge undertaking to find a gift mom will like and use.
Some people believe they are giving the best gift possible when they give something they love themselves, especially if it is expensive or boasts a designer label. However, gift giving is more complex than this.
Here are a dozen things you need to know when shopping for a gift to please mom, not just yourself:
1. Size: Measurements help for accuracy, since sizing is not always consistent.
2. Colour preferences: What you like for them may not be what they prefer. When shopping for another person, select the colours and tones they like.
3. Personality: What makes your recipient feel great determines what styles will make them happy. Tailored, rustic, artistic, tribal, feminine – the look is as important as the fit.
4. Scale: Some individuals love big statements, while others prefer smaller, more delicate ones. Stick to their preferred scale, not yours.
5. Metal colours: Gold, silver, bronze, pewter or copper? When metals are part of your gift, knowing which ones suit mom makes a huge difference. Whether it’s buttons and trim or jewelry, be sure your gift has mom’s metal of choice.
6. Authenticity: For some individuals, it’s real or nothing. For such a person intrinsic value is huge. Playful look-alikes won’t do.
7. Allergies: People can be allergic to anything, making even the most special item useless to them.
8. Personal idiosyncrasies: An individual may like or intensely dislike something because of their personal experience. For example, a colour may bring back an unpleasant memory. This is not necessarily logical. One never knows what triggers a negative or positive response unless one really gets to know the person.
9. Body thermostat: Some people are warmer or cooler than others so weight of clothing will have an impact on their comfort.
10. Lifestyle: What someone finds useful is often determined by what they do and where they are. They need to feel comfortable in their surroundings.
11. Maintenance: Some people want only easy-care items that can be washed, dried and not ironed; others dry clean everything and some don’t care at all.
12. Ethics: A person’s ethics will contribute to their likes and dislikes. Where and how something is made can be an issue. Organic, green, fair-trade, made in Canada are just some of the issues.
When your gift is something mom truly likes, can use and enjoy, you have given her a perfect gift.
Which would you rather receive -- one of your favourite flowers or giant bouquets that make you sneeze? The logic of gift giving comes down to finding things that make your recipient’s heart sing. It is work, but the pleasure of seeing them open the perfect gift is worth it.
One final thought -- not all gifts can be placed in a box. Some recipients would prefer the gift of your time or a sentimental token of your affection.
Make your gift selection based on what makes your mom happiest and you cannot go wrong.
Regardless of what you give, your efforts to please your mom will make her happy.
Enjoy the day!
"Wardrobe Doctor" Marilyn Wetston is the owner of Marilyn’s, 200 Spadina Ave., Toronto, Ontario, M5T 2C2. Write to her and she will help you with your fashion dilemmas or visit her site at Marilyns.ca.